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Oh so you wanna be THE MAN do ya!
I’m Rich Bz and welcome to your first day in MANHOOD 101
Today we ask the question
Are there REAL MEN anymore
I guess that begs the question has REAL MEN ever existed. And the question what is a real man
Because it seems as if there are a lot of different requirements when it comes to what a real man is.
So we – YES – YOU and I – are going to attempt to clear this up. But we are going to do it like THE Men we are.
Let’s ask the question and get feedback. Then we will take that feedback and come to our own conclusion.
Understand that the conclusion will hone in on the root – yes The Man gets to the root.
So let’s get it!
What are the man quote unquote qualifications?
Loyal
Good Listener
Thoughtful
Romantic
Strong
Direct
Faithful
Integrity
Honest
Mature
Self-Confident
Penis
Change A Tire
Produce Sperm
Responsible
Grow a Mustache
Job
Kill Bugs
Manners
Protector
Respectful
Just so you know, the qualifications I just stated came from both men and women, old and young.
So let’s go through some of these and see what sticks.
Let’s talk about Loyalty
I believe this is paramount in becoming The Man.
Loyalty must be present in the Man. Once you choose a side –
and I say choose a side because a man doesn’t get forced on a side and this is not blind loyalty.
The man chooses where he stands and where he stands, he stands flatfooted with chest up, chin down, and looking toward the direction in which he desires to go.
But as for loyalty – the type of things the Man is loyal to should be things like their spouse, family, real friends, and whatever helps to build up their community.
With all that being said, you must remember to be loyal to God and if you remember from the last episode when I speak of God that is God in YOU! You must be loyal to that alignment FIRST above all else.
As the saying goes to thine own self be true.
Next on the list, Good Listener – how can you be THE MAN and not listen. Even if you don’t agree with the statements being made it gives you a chance to understand someones position, thought process, and intent.
If you let someone talk their word will condemn or edify the GOD in them. So it is up to the Man to listen and take mental notes to know whether there is a need or if there is something that needs addressing.
It seems being a good listener leads to the next requirement thoughtfulness.
To be thoughtful you will have to be in touch with your feelings.
Some may say that men don’t have feelings, yet others would say feelings are a feminine trait. Remember we are dealing with root not generalities.
When you are in alignment with and speak to the God in you it is through your feelings. The words that you speak are reinforced with your feelings.
As an example, have you had a conversation with someone you were angry with but you didn’t actually get mad, because you realized it wasn’t anger that you were feeling but disappointment that they did what they did and you expected more from them, like to have your back or to stand up for you when you couldn’t be there to handle it yourself?
Well that is feelings. Now if the person you were disappointed with thought that you were angry with them and when you finally spoke you said really calmly – Man I’m really disappointed in you.
How did they respond? Did they cry? Did the anger in them change over to a look of sadness or match your feeling of disappointment?
Feelings behind what you do makes you thoughtful. Thoughtfulness is not all in the mind. Thoughtfulness begins with a thought or feeling for a person and combining the knowing of what they like or what they consider desirable and using that information to create a feeling in them. Usually a feeling of happiness, excitement, love, joy, and or peace.
Let me pause here and say Oh So You WANNA BE THE MAN DO YA
Oh you thought it was easy – oh you thought it was just getting ripped or getting all the chicks or getting to the bag.
Well being THE MAN takes work, it takes effort, it takes tapping into yourself in a way an average male won’t.
Let’s skip down to DIRECT.
I think this stands out because lesser men will do a lot of talking behind backs or being attitudinal, not asking the hard questions or making the hard decisions.
But NOT YOU! You are THE MAN! You are DIRECT – Facing challenges straight up. No tucking tails here.
Say it – I AM THE MAN
Great we are getting somewhere.
Now that’s settled – we are going to combine a couple of things on the list.
Changing a tire
Kill Bugs
Protector
Responsible
All men are not designed the same, this we understand. But we also know that being the man will make us have to do things that we may not want to do.
Remember you’re the man, right?
Ok, so this means learn how to change a tire. You don’t wanna be stranded with your girl,
excuse me, I mean your woman because the man doesn’t date or marry girls the man desires and builds a relationship with grown women but we will get to that later right now we are focused on you, the man
Now you don’t wanna be stranded with a flat tire and your woman is looking at you looking at this flat tire and you don’t know what to do. And just know that a grown woman who encounters a lesser man will become THE MAN herself and fix the tire by doing what you should have done which is open their phone and watch a quick youtube video and learn on the fly or look for the book in the glove box of the car and then do it herself.
Now who’s the man?
This same thing goes for everything on this combined section. So take the initiative and go learn these things. Because the man when encountering a weakness or a rudimentary skill they don’t possess will either figure it out or find someone to teach him.
You are not the man just because you can over power things or yell really loudly. You are the man because you also know how and when to ask for assistance.
As an aside: The Man works in the realm of preventative maintenance. This is not just for cars, homes, or bugs but for life, health and wealth. Let’s remember relationships also.
This where being responsible comes in.
The man must be responsible in everything that has to do with him. Responsibility doesn’t mean there has to be fault associated with it. Responsibility speaks of ownership, governing, watching, preventing, caring for, securing, and if fault is to be assign for the Man not reaching a goal or deadline then taking the fault even if it is a result of another member of the team the man oversees.
Responsibility means taking care of your kids, from birth till your death. Not always monetarily, unless they are a child or unable to take care of themselves when the need arrises in their life but also emotionally, building their character, teaching them life lessons so they are better equipped to face the world that as The Man knows is coming to greet them ever so quickly.
So back to our question:
Are there Real Men anymore – the answer I can deduce from the feedback and input we have been able to attain – YES. If the majority of people have said the things on the list are the requirements to being a real man then again YES, REAL MEN DO EXIST.
But be warned: The man is and will always be the man. Once you have stepped up to be the man – there is no going back.
If you do, then were you the man to begin with or were you just an imitation?
Repeat after me:
I don’t know about anywhere else – but around here – I will think like the Man – I will talk like the Man – and I will walk like the Man – because I AM THE MAN. Let’s say that last part again
I AM THE MAN
In the next episode we are getting into relationships, yes relationships, with the topic “BLACK MEN DON’T CHEAT”. But because we are The Man – we are gonna be honest.
I want to thank each and every person who gave input on the the requirements of what they thought a real man’s qualities were. Shout out to all the women who are standing up in the absence of real men but know this podcast was created to fill that gap and build up those who don’t know, wasn’t taught, or was scared because the examples they did have were lessor men. Trust me when I say The Man is coming to give you peace that surpasses all understanding.